No more wallowing! Get over it!

Clearly, from these choices, I'm not big on wallowing in the bittersweet remnants of nasty break-ups. Divorces happen. Break-ups happen. People die, and people are born. Every day is a new day and nothing we can do will ever change the past. Sometimes we just need to pick ourselves up by our bootstraps and get on with living our lives.

Cry Me a River by Diana Krall

"You drove me, nearly drove me, out of my head
While you never shed a tear
Remember, I remember, all that you said
You told me love was too plebeian
Told me you were through with me and

Now you say you love me
Well, just to prove that you do
Come on and cry me a river
Cry me a river
I cried a river over you
I cried a river over you
I cried a river...over you..."

Really? Need I say more? We all know (or at least like to think) that the dumper will eventually regret it and come crawling back. And then we, as the dumpee, will revel in the thrill of rejecting the apologies and groveling of the dumper. Even if it never happens, this song still gives you that thrill of power and perseverance.

Brand New Day by Van Morrison

It's more about waking up and getting started with a new life than wallowing in the unchangeable past.

"When all the dark clouds roll away
And the sun begins to shine
I see my freedom from across the way
And it comes right in on time
Well it shines so bright and it gives so much light
And it comes from the sky above
Makes me feel so free makes me feel like me
And lights my life with love

[Chorus:]
And it seems like and it feels like
And it seems like yes it feels like
A brand new day, yeah
A brand new day oh

I was lost and double crossed
With my hands behind my back
I was longtime hurt and thrown in the dirt
Shoved out on the railroad track
I've been used, abused and so confused
And I had nowhere to run
But I stood and looked
And my eyes got hooked
On that beautiful morning sun

[Chorus]

And the sun shines down all on the ground
Yeah and the grass is oh so green
And my heart is still and I've got the will
And I don't really feel so mean
Here it comes, here it comes
0 here it comes right now
And it comes right in on time
Well it eases me and it pleases me
And it satisfies my mind"

That's Life by Frank Sinatra

Because break-ups are life. Sometimes life kicks your ass. Other times, it doesn't. That's just the way things are.

"That's life (that's life), that's what all the people say
You're ridin' high in April, shot down in May
But I know I'm gonna change that tune
When I'm back on top, back on top in June

I said that's life (that's life), and as funny as it may seem
Some people get their kicks stompin' on a dream
But I don't let it, let it get me down
'cause this fine old world, it keeps spinnin' around

I've been a puppet, a pauper, a pirate, a poet, a pawn and a king
I've been up and down and over and out and I know one thing
Each time I find myself flat on my face
I pick myself up and get back in the race

That's life (that's life), I tell you I can't deny it
I thought of quitting, baby, but my heart just ain't gonna buy it
And if I didn't think it was worth one single try
I'd jump right on a big bird and then I'd fly"